When it comes to your school of music application, one reference holds exceptional significance: your high school music teacher. This is the person who knows you beyond your performances and can speak to your daily commitment, interpersonal skills, leadership abilities, and character. So, while references from renowned conductors or instructors may seem enticing, it's your high school music teacher who can truly capture their attention.

But how do you cultivate this invaluable reference? Have you established a genuine connection with this person? Do they see you as more than just a student seeking their support for your collegiate and career aspirations? Have you ever shared your future musical dreams with them or taken an interest in their own journey as a music teacher? If not, it's time to start. Building a relationship with your music teacher is about respecting their professional boundaries while nurturing a meaningful connection.

Be of assistance. Offer your help with the daily tasks involved in running and maintaining your high school music program. Embrace leadership roles among your peers, whether they are formal or behind the scenes. This demonstrates character, an essential quality that will always shine through.

Remember to say thank you, and say it often. Express gratitude to your music teacher when you experience those spine-tingling musical moments in class or during a concert. Thank them for their guidance and support as you prepare for auditions. Show appreciation when they accompany you to events like honors ensembles or solo and ensemble festivals. While heartfelt spoken thanks are important, nothing beats the lasting impact of a handwritten thank you card. 

Take the time to write a thoughtful note inside, expressing your gratitude:

• Thank you for generously sharing your time and expertise to help me prepare for my All-State audition. It meant the world to me.
• Your contributions to our class are truly extraordinary. Yesterday, during our rehearsal of ____________, I experienced goosebumps. That musical moment will forever stay with me. Thank you!
• You have exceeded all expectations. Thank you for supporting me at ____________. You have become a mentor whose footsteps I aspire to follow.

Remember, what truly matters is the thought and act of expressing your gratitude.

Make a conscious effort to cultivate this reference. Who knows, this reference may one day extend beyond your college years and become your first job reference or even a colleague. The bond you build with your high school music teacher holds immeasurable value, so invest in it and let it grow.

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